The Lack of Support and Protection for Black Women In Our Own Families, Communities & With Our Black Men

A topic that is more taboo than anything to discuss, but must be told. Black women have been the rock and foundation for the black family, the home and communities. We will attempt to look at how over the years black homes have changed and the few that are headed by Black men who love, treasure and cherish the gifts that we are respect and honor for black women across all spectrums of America have changed.




Women of color at one point were respected, protected and truly loved by our men. For centuries we were and still the rock and foundation for the family, and during the '70s our communities were striving. We were confident in our beauty, style, and choices.  Today it breaks my heart to see so many of us trying to imitate the European way of looking by wearing weaves, and other western influences. The photo below is courtesy of: BEAUTY & THE BEACH | 1930s African American women in bathing suits strike a pose.

Wake the )&%$ Up Black America

Netflix....questioned the content of black movies up there. The movies either downplay artist or exploit women of color as angry, single, or loose. The men are either drug dealers, deadbeat fathers, or rapist. As Kaepernick took a knee for the lies behind this yet to the United States with a flag that only reminds us of the colonization of our people and the blood that was shed to advance their agenda. STAY WOKE! Wake up Black America, everything was not always owned or ran by people who do not represent the black communities interest. We were killed for it during Jim Crow south!

Think about it! Another form a Jim Crow is going on and is cripple the way of life for all Americans. The Willie Lynch letters that were written were, in fact, a result of the rhetoric that we see in today's current administration. He stated in his letters that if we can separate the head of the home to leave the women in charge. Then their children will not have any directions and be disobedient in the home. As I write this blog from my point of view as a Black American, it saddens my heart to see that the violence in America, is at an all-time high and racial injustice is being felt all over.

We need each other. Television is not portraying a positive image or reflection of how Black homes were ran during the 70's when I grew up and this younger generation is being brainwashed by movies, that do not support positive reflections of who we are as people of color or foreign descent. I stopped supporting and watching the NFL years ago because that's just like having people of color picking cotton. They knew the effects of playing this game but chose to continue exposing players to the dangers of permanent injuries with their families left to suffer the results. They will be retired by then from making billions of these athletes.

REJECTED

Thank you so much for rejecting me....thank you for ignoring my text and calls....thank you for not showing me the compassion and love that I've shown you... The tears that I've cried....over you and for you...you will never understand...

As a single parent....there is no re-do or cushion...after you have given all you've had to provide a stable future for your children.... the hurt that you fill from your children who don't call to check in on you or call to just say hello...or I love you...

I remember as a young woman I was so angry at my mom because I thought she didn't love me and as much as I needed the companionship that I've given my daughters... I just wanted to have that female bond...but as I grew older...I realized that she was only given what she was given...and didn't blame her..from the past hurts that consumed her in fear...and crippled...what dreams she had to soar...a marriage...where....I promise to love you until the end of our life...turned out to be a lie...

I remember standing with my siblings peaking through the crack of the door as my father tried to console her...after he cheated for what seemed to be the last time...my mother could take...she was broken...hurt...and all I remember was wanting to cry with her... and hold...her...

I know how my mother felt and feels when she doesn't get calls from her grandchildren...

What happened to us? why is it so hard for this generation to see that working together is better than working apart.... this is one post that I cannot finish at this time...because I'm so hurt...I feel abandoned...alone...a castaway... REJECTED....

What happened to the Family

This is truly heavy on my heart this morning. American families have become so selfish when it comes to family. I look at some of the places God has taken me around the world and see how children are there for their grandparents, Mother's and fathers.

The Phillipino family that I worked with in Hawaii as a special needs skills trainer as humble as they were. They always came together to take care of what needed to be done. Yet taking the time to bless me with tokens of gratitude for impacting their son's life. It' breaks my heart as a parent to see my family as well as others I've grown up with a part, and not cherishing the moments that we can never get back. I'm truly blessed with my sisters Susan & Rosemary, we were inseparable and no pride, ego or relationship kept us apart or from being there for each other.

Susan my oldest sister would watch the kids for us when we got promoted to nighttime work at Sears with no type of oh let me check with my boyfriend or it's going to cost you. My heart truly aches for the lost soles of these American families that are so selfish that they can't see past the schemes from the devil to divide families. It's a choice to truly walk with God and seek his face for healing for generations to come. Not the fake lipservice some Christians do and when they are behind closed doors their tongues are filled with condemnation for their brother or sister. That's not Love,

This Philipino family that I worked with, as well as others, taught me so much during the time I was blessed to be in their son's life who was autistic. We all grow and change some for the better and some still with wounds, bitterness, and hurt from the past. But we have to remember that no one is perfect but Christ and who the spirit set free is free indeed. To the families out here that I've met during this thing, we call life. I'm honored to have learned from you what a Healthy and supportive family looks like.

Women It’s Time We Stop Hurting In Silence

Singles, have you ever be around family or people you grew up with and no matter how long time has gone by. They haven’t changed? Either trying to make you feel guilty or ashamed for something that’s happened in the past? Or keep bringing things up that try to keep you locked into the old choices you made, but don’t turn the mirror on their own situations? 

The truth is No More Lies: 

God is doing a new thing in the lives of those that want to shame you or make you feel undeserving. God is pulling down strongholds in the lives of his Sons and Daughters. He is releasing dry bones in families that are stagnant and stuck in their ways.  He is breaking generational curses for men who have raped or sexual assaulted their family members and exposing the lies and bringing peace in these toxic dysfunctional relationships. 

 It’s Time As Women that we stop covering the lies of men who have hurt us so that we can break this generational curse that has made us choose wrongly in our relationship with men, and suffer in silence why rape victims or sexual assault victims are looked at as we some how deserved it. I’m speaking to women who have been hurt in their youth and now grown still dealing with the scars or your past. 

There is healing in God, and my prayer is that he will place healthy Godly men and women in your lives to pray you through the hurt and pain, to cultivate a healthy environment for you to speak freely and love you past your wounds. 

Singles we are going all in this month as God continues to use me to reach the putter most parts of this earth. 

Live Your Life Loved, (PB31) Stay Blessed And Love yourself 1st to the fullest 

Always, YSIC Carol Burns, 

Single & Saved 

Dealing with Fear!

Ears That Hear Him

Have you ever received news that broke your heart and took your breath away? In a moment like that, when God’s promises don’t seem to line up with your circumstances, it’s easy to wonder where He is in the midst of your pain.

Those are the times we most need to get alone with God so we can try to get His perspective on things. We need to have ears to hear our heavenly Father when overwhelming problems surround us.
It was on February 7, 1938, that German pastor Martin Niemöller needed to hear from God in just this way. That morning Martin was led from his prison cell to the courtroom for his trial. His crime was daring to speak against Adolf Hitler.

Martin had been so courageous in the weeks and months leading up to that day, but as he began the long walk toward judgment, he found himself overcome with fear for himself and the people he loved. Martin needed to hear from God.

The guard who led him along the passageway seemed cold as stone, but after a moment Martin began to hear a soft whispering. At first, Martin wasn’t sure what he was hearing, but as he listened more carefully, he realized it was the guard’s voice. God’s message to Martin was being delivered through the unlikeliest of messengers: a soldier of the Third Reich. He was whispering words from Proverbs that brought great comfort and courage to Martin’s soul: “The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous runs into it and is safe” (Proverbs 18:10).*

Are you, like Martin, overwhelmed by your circumstances today? Do you find yourself turning your situation over and over in your mind, desperate for a solution, then feeling knocked down by a fresh wave of fear?

Go to your heavenly Father. He knows what you are up against. Spend some time with Him so that He can fine-tune your hearing and remind you of who He is and what you mean to Him.
Today, Lord, enable me to hear Your voice above every other.

* Robert J. Morgan, Nelson’s Complete Book of Stories, Illustrations & Quotes (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2000), 152.

A Family That Prays Together Stays Together

Hello!

     I'm excited to share what God has put on my heart with the recent events that are happening in our society today. The current administration is reverting back to a form of slavery that was visible during the Willie Lynch letters, and the Virginia Compromise. The administration is trying to justify their actions by saying they are separating those that are criminals, but In fact they are using the same tactics that were used during Jim Crow.  Immigrants as the current administration calls it, are the most dedicated workers in our society since slavery was abolished. The majority of people that migrate here come for the same way of life that we so happily live.

Your Host:
Carol,