Hello! Happy Friday!
Hey friends bloggets, "sometimes the right thing takes time" quote courtesy of Brown Girl Self Care podcast. Women we as women of color need to take the time out of our daily "To Do" list and focus in on us/yourself. To that end, as I sit here today and look back on the turn of events that 2021 has bought me. I'm remeded of humility, being thankful and present in whatever season of your life your in. Whether it's trying to maintan fitness, or health. Unplug from the easy acess people have to you, including family.
As Black women, we do not have the support like our grandparents generation did. The men of this generation do not share the same sentiment of protecting our honor. The media is portraying women of color as easy, angry or poor. After listening to "Brown Girl Self Care' podcast. It has helped me focus internally more on myself, where I'm at as a mother, sister, friend and entrepenuer/business owner. Bre, shares in her podcast how we allow people including family easy access to our lives. We have to put ourselves first, and take the time to get off the grid and read the book that you purchased years ago, and invest in your time because it's valuable.
The importance of putting yourself first determines how well your mental state will be in the long run, take it from me, my middle daughter reasonally came back in my life and with that came a lot of stress and challenges. A while ago in the past during my 20's as a single parent. I made one of the worse decision a woman could make. The relationship I entered after 10 years of leaving an abusive marriage, ended up being very abusive relationship mentally and physically that exposed my daughters to a unhealthy enviornment. Therefore, afraid with no support system, accept my father who was aging himself. I had to turn this around and not allow the dysfunction and toxic patterns to follow my legacy.
Although it's been over 50 years ago, there is still residue in their lives exspecially her life. As black women either we are so use to the trauma we tend to suffer in silence and move on with our lives as if nothing happend. And never really heal, the self care and putting you first is about addressing issues or those secrects that most family have, but never admit. Which causes a whirlwind of emotional instability that stems from our childhood and grow into our future relationships. To that end, after receiving extensive counseling and therapy. 21 years later, things have come full circle , and old wounds have resurfaced.
Upon relocating back to the mainland after much needed solitude from the lost of my father's life. The lord was preparing my spirit with what was to come. The teachings "Spiritual Warfare" - Understanding Demonic Activity, & The four part series "Anticipating Evil". As a woman of color, I've decided to not allow anyone to have access in the club of my life whenvever they want. I've chosen to CHOOSE ME instead of the garbage others try to dump in my spirit because they refuse to do the work in their own personal growth. I've healed, and I have forgiving myself, and God has forgiving me. Although this discussion is short for the sake of time, however, I put the work into my life as well as my daughters to heal, and right the wrongs in our life to stop the dysfunction that has been in my family since I was a child. The things my sister's and I were exposed to our innocents that was taken is not something that should ever happen. Women, I will leave you with this, don't allow the decisions of your past, shame you, or make you feel that your voice, gifts and talents that God has given you, are not relevant. There is not one person that has not made a decision either while young or old. Good or Bad, hidden or that will come to light That is not worth God's love. The healing can only begin when the truth is in you.
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